Naomi will be 2 years and 10 months old in another few days time. She is quite a fast learner but a bit over attach to me. I have tried to send her to pre-school and it really really traumatized her. The pre school teacher kept saying I should leave her and just go away. It broke my heart to see her screaming and crying at the gate when I returned 1 hour later. She even woke up in the middle of the night and asked if she need to be in school alone again. Poor baby, I have no heart to continue her in the school, so I withdraw her from school after 3 days trial. I seriously think pre-school shouldn't be so stressful. It should be a place she looks forward to be everyday. A lot of people said I wasn't tough enough, a lot of them think I should let her continue for at least a week or two, but it's not a must for her to go to school right? I really couldn't bear her midnight cry saying she doesn't want to be in school alone. So be it lar, sigh....
I was talking to my friend who runs a kindy, she told me I shouldn't have left her and go all of sudden. I should be there with her for at least 1 week, to let her get use to the environment and to look for the sense of security... BUT it was the school PRINCIPAL that told me to leave her!!!! I picked the wrong school after doing all the visiting to a few of them! :(
Now, whenever I told her that "look, that jie jie is going to school... it is so much fun going to school..." and she will answer "but I like to stay home with mummy.... I don't have to go to school...." sigh...
So, We shall try again soon or next year, and definitely another school....
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Hi, glad u're back. I'm sure Naomi will soon forget the trauma in pre school
for a 3 yr old child, is ok, no need go to school oso nvmd la.. maybe can try again after she turns 3 and bring her along to check out a few kindy and ask her which one she likes..
I wouldn't sweat it either. Same thing happened to Bryan and I was there the whole time! Still he was clearly traumatised that I'll probably skip sending him off to school till he turns 3.5yrs at least if not 4 :) why rush?
Hey. Had followed your blogs years but first time drop u comment. =)
I am sending my lil one to pre-school too. she is ok with it. i brought her along when i searching and try to show her the fun part of the pre-school. I let her play with the other kids for few hours while im talking with the principal. i went there twice with her before i enroll her in. hence she is ok with the 3rd time..... crying too but still ok.. she get used to it after few weeks....
hope this will help u in future....
aiyoo... i can really picture the situation and how mummy felt... heartache hoh.... nvm la... mayb wait a little while... choosing preskul also quite imptn hoh....
take ur time la if u feel u dont want to go school yet.. for me, i send philip to school cos no choice. i dont want him to be "unproductive" at home... cos its only maid and him.
My girl is 3 years plus, she is still at home with me. When I ask my girl whether she wants to go to school or not, she will say NO. But I always tell her going to school is fun, can make friends...stuff like that so she won't be so traumatized gua. I hope Naomi will like going to school again soon.
Hey Viv, follow ur instinct. And sometimes, we tend to forget to listen to our kids. They too, have a choice. And kids nowadays are smart enough to voice out what they are feeling.
School can wait...
Thanks Rayne for your tips...i think have to make it sound very fun! u know like going for kai kai like that, she might take the bait :)
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